No seriously, I am asking. Introverts are awesome people. My wife is an introvert and after 5 years seeing each other every day we are not bored of being with each other ever. In fact, most people who are reserved or introverts are normally great people to have a talk or share things. But somehow most of them thing little of themselves. Why? Why you guys want to be like someone who talks bullshit about things you could even bother to start caring about.
Well, this is a world of extroverts. The key to success is to have personal skills and the ability to sell yourself and make connections. It can be true. But I would die if I had to pretend that the stories most people at work tell are funny. They are not. At least not to me. So then why should I laugh? I am going to tell you why. Because we human beings want to be accepted. We want to belong to a group. We plant that seed when we are kids. They tell you weirdo if you keep it to yourself, your parents encourage you to make friends and be popular, at school they always stress the importance of being part of a group, behave like everyone else to be part of something greater than yourself. B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T. Do you really want to go with your phone hunting this Pokemon things? Do you want to go half naked to a pub and start doing this things that girls do nowadays with their butt? I mean, if you want it is absolutely fine. But I personally prefer to hit myself hard against the wall.
It is not that you have to feel superior to anyone ( although sometimes people really behave like apes and I do not intend to be mean). People are different and for some reason different sometimes is perceived as bad or weird or not desirable. So to hell with that. I never pretend something interest me if it does not. And if someone invites me to do something I do not want to do I just say I do not want to. I do not make up excuses. I never laugh when my boss tells me jokes and I always try to avoid him because the word stupid has taken a total different dimension since he is in the world. I am not mean or make faces because he is not a bad guy. But he is a hyperactive child trapped in the body of a grown-up and I simply do not have the patience to deal with that kind of thing.
I do not think I am an introvert in the same way that some introverts describe themselves. I am not shy and I do not have a problem speaking my mind. But I do not have the need to socialize if I do not want. Neither do I like people as a whole much. I do not share many interest with most people I have to deal with every day. But I know that people like me. Sometimes I do not know why because I tell them that I do not want to talk to them if I do not feel like. And I do tell them that they are annoying when they are (obviously with people who I have the confidence to. Otherwise I won't have a job at this point).I can be months without calling a friend and if they asked me why I just say that I did not feel like. And I do thing it is the write way to behave. I ate when people tell you how nice you are and behind your back they stab you. I do not even say hello to those. Not even at work. They do not have my respect. And I have found that people respect me for these things. Obviously some people may think that I am an arrogant or a sociopath. I don't really care. I never do anything bad to anyone apart from showing them indifference.
What I am trying to say here is that people should not care with other people think about them. In fact, you should be proud that certain people consider you a weirdo if you don't think very high of them. Loads of introverts tell me that they would like to be more social and popular. But they don't. That would be a hell for them. There is absolutely nothing wrong about being different, liking solitude or whatever it is that you feel it is strange. As long as you do not harm anyone people cannot judge you. And if they do you can give them some money to buy a life. We all want to improve some aspects of ourselves and that is fine. But to change the very things that give us our uniqueness is wrong. And deep inside you know it.
Life is whatever you thing life is so do not let anyone tell you how to live it.
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